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To be fair, I tell all of my friends not to gift me anything, to save them from experiencing the aforementioned gift rejection…(if they insist, they’ve been forewarned!!) …and if they reeealllly think they’ve cracked the code and found the thing, I say “send me a picture and ask me if I want it.” Why would I want you to spend your money on something that I don’t want?! (I don’t.) OKAY SO Obviously we are all different and some people LOVE receiving gifts, it really hits the spot!!… …but in the name of reducing unnecessary waste in a consumeristic culture and learning to love each other in the best ways we can, I think it’s great to get curious about each other and learn what or how someone really loves to receive. Most of you are familiar with The Languages of Love. If you’re not, check them out! I’m delighted that this basic framework is so widely known. It’s helpful, and is a fun way to get to know each other. I like to take it next level, and get more specific- What DOES quality time mean to you? What are acts of service that you love to receive? What’s the best gift you’ve ever gotten? I’ve always loved really getting to know people. The nuance, the intricacies, the complexity, the uniqueness. I respect mine, and I respect yours! ♡ I LOVE knowing exactly how people want to be loved, to be held, to be supported, to be cared for. (This won’t mean I’ll always be able to fully meet their needs, but at least I can get as close as possible within the bounds of what’s in alignment for me!)
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